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Violence Anonymous is a program for women and men who, through shared experience, strength, hope and honesty are recovering from violent behavior. Whether the violence happened as adults or as children, Violence Anonymous welcomes everyone who wants to stop the emotional, physical or psychological violence in their lives.
Are you ready to stop the cycle of abuse in your relationships? So are we.
Physical and sexual assaults, or threats to commit them are the most apparent forms of violence and are usually the actions that allow others to become aware of the problem. Although physical assaults may occur only once or occasionally, they instill threat of future violent attacks and allow the abuser to take control of the partner’s life and circumstances. Regular use of other abusive behaviors make up a larger system of abuse.
These are some of the ways violence is carried out:
Minimizing, Denying and Blaming
Sexism & Racism
Coercion & Threats
There are those among us who found that the behaviors of violence, whether emotional, psychological or physical, stem from a desire to exhibit power and control over people and circumstance. We have found that without a spiritual awakening, this condition is progressive and untreated can result in imprisonment and death. For those of you who are sincerely willing to change, there is hope. May you find it now.
Violence Anonymous is not affiliated with any public, or private organization, political movement, ideology or religion; we take no position on outside issues. Our primary purpose is to overcome violence and to carry this message of recovery to those who still suffer.
Wednesday meeting. 1:00 pm CST.
We hold meetings on a telephone conference call. The conference is free. each participant is billed as a long distance call. The number is 001 (712) 432-1699. Access Code 563022#. Press *6 to mute and un mute your phone.
Suggested 12 steps of recovery:
1. We admitted we were powerless over violence—that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
*The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous have been reprinted and adapted with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. (“AAWS”). Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions does not mean that Alcoholics Anonymous is affiliated with this program. A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only - use of A.A.’s Steps and Traditions or an adapted version in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, or use in any other non-A.A. context, does not imply otherwise.
6. Non Violent Communication
7. Phone Calls
9. Processing Triggers (getting off the drama triangle)
- Reframing Exercise
- Trauma Therapy
- Change Location
- Change Attention
10. Fun, Humor and Laughter
11. Deep Breathing
12. Self Care
- Balanced Sleep
- Balanced Nutrition
- Balanced Exercise
13. Experience the feeling (sit with the feeling rather than act on it)
14. Change your attention to a more positive state
drama triangle roles
NYU Center for Violence and Recovery
Lynne Forrest: The three faces of victim
Lynne Forrest: The faces of victim: booklet
Joan Casey: Boundary problems and solutions
Karpman Drama Triangle: wikipedia