Violence Anonymous
Meetings Meeting Format 12 Steps Tools Contact Resources Violence Anonymous is a program for women and men who, through shared experience, strength, hope and honesty are recovering from violent behavior. Whether the violence happened as adults or as children, Violence Anonymous welcomes everyone who wants to stop the emotional, physical or psychological violence in their lives.
Are you ready to stop the cycle of abuse in your relationships? So are we.
Physical and sexual assaults, or threats to commit them are the most apparent forms of violence and are usually the actions that allow others to become aware of the problem. Although physical assaults may occur only once or occasionally, they instill threat of future violent attacks and allow the abuser to take control of the partner’s life and circumstances. Regular use of other abusive behaviors make up a larger system of abuse.
These are some of the ways violence is carried out:Intimidation
Emotional Abuse
Psychological Abuse
Isolation
Minimizing, Denying and Blaming
Using Children
Economic Abuse
Sexism & Racism
Coercion & Threats
Spiritual Violence
Sexual Violence
There are those among us who found that the behaviors of violence, whether emotional, psychological or physical, stem from a desire to exhibit power and control over people and circumstance. We have found that without a spiritual awakening, this condition is progressive and untreated can result in imprisonment and death. For those of you who are sincerely willing to change, there is hope. May you find it now.
Violence Anonymous is not affiliated with any public, or private organization, political movement, ideology or religion; we take no position on outside issues. Our primary purpose is to overcome violence and to carry this message of recovery to those who still suffer.
Wednesday meeting. 1:00 pm CST.
We hold meetings on a telephone conference call. The conference is free. each participant is billed as a long distance call. The number is 001 (712) 432-1699. Access Code 563022#. Press *6 to mute and un mute your phone.
Violence Anonymous
Suggested 12 steps of recovery:1. We admitted we were powerless over violence - that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to perpetrators of violence and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
*These have been adopted form the steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. It is relevant to note that the language here is from 1935. The term God is used to signify a connection with a “higher power” and can take on any meaning the reader chooses.
Deep Breathing
Exercise - healthy outlets for aggression (martial arts, sports...)
Change your physical location
Change your attention to a more positive state
Phone Calls to other VAs
Sponsorship
Prayer and Meditation
Trauma Therapy
Additional Reading
Email: info@ViolenceAnonymous.com
NYU Center for Violence and Recovery
Lynne Forrest: The three faces of victim
Lynne Forrest: The faces of victim: booklet
Joan Casey: Boundary problems and solutions
Karpman Drama Triangle: wikipedia
